17 Ways a Lack of Confidence Impacts You

Got Confidence?!

Whether you like it or not, none of us can afford to underestimate the power of confidence.

What is confidence?

Confidence is believing in yourself, your capabilities and your ability to get things done. It’s also having trust, faith, assurance in a person, place or thing.

The gospel singer, Tasha Cobbs proclaims, “I’ve got confidence!” And, I actually love that song, but some days my confidence is challenged –I drift into wondering, like Moses, “Who am I that I should go?” (Exodus 3:11) and on other days my confidence is bold and unwavering, like, Lord, yup, “Send me!” (Isaiah 6:8)

How about you?

Do you wake up on some days confident, ready to take on the world and other days, you cower back wishing you could hit the skip life button?

My question is simple…

Got confidence?! Now, the not so simple question is, what or whom are you confident in? 

Yesterday, I was in search of a new Bible, so I went to Tar-ge’. As I passed the colorful towels, and admired the home decor prints, I wasn’t enticed to stop to touch anything because I was most interested in finding the book section.

Great! I found it, but after checking out the first row of books, my gut said, “They don’t have any Bibles?!”

Then, I shifted to the back wall of books, and I noticed the book the sisters wrote, Miss Jessie’s: Creating a Successful Business from Scratch Naturally. Instead of grabbing their book, I just stared at the cover and stood there thinking about the twists and turns of life. It was definitely a long moment of silence. Then my eyes noticed T.D. Jakes’ book, Instinct. I didn’t really think twice, grabbed it and opened it to a section that talked about the difficulty of being able to identify one’s “tangible and intangible” gifts.

Yesss! Confirmation.

In my debut book, #GetEngaged with Yourself & Win! 12 Keys to Unlocking the Life & Love You Desire, I ask key questions throughout the book, and my last question asks the reader to think about and write down their “tangible and intangible” gifts.

I really needed to read that in T.D’s book too.

I mention this not just for the plug of my book or Miss Jessie’s or T.D.’s (which I haven’t read), but because in that moment, as I desperately searched to replace my lost Bible, my confidence was challenged.

I needed a reminder that my writing, my words, the instruction I’m giving to others is valuable too, and have way more to do with God’s glory than mine.

So, maybe –just maybe, I lost my Bible in order to go to Tar-ge’ in order to reflect on the loss of a sister I never met, in order to read a portion of Instinct, to see, that God is indeed working all things out for my good, and for your good?!

And, my confidence is needed, your confidence is needed, our confidence is needed to see us through.

“being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” ~Philippians 1:6 NIV”

This brings me back to my original questions…

Got confidence? And, what or whom are you confident in? 

I am a professed personal development junkie. Outside of having a master’s of divinity, I’ve read a lot of books focused on confidence, leadership and love. I appreciate the gems I gained from books like Confident Woman by Joyce Meyer, His Rules by Christopher L. Burge & Pamela Toussaint and The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey. The books helped, but I had to go deeper, if I wanted unshakable confidence.

I had to #GetEngaged with myself, my attributes, strengths and weaknesses. I had to get to know the God who created me and why I was created.

To know God is working with me to accomplish good works positively impacts my confidence. My confidence is built in an understanding of my limitations and in God’s unlimitedness.

We’re human, so none of us will be confident in every area of our lives. However, some of us are losing mini and major battles because we’re not aware of how much confidence or the lack thereof impacts our day-to-day life.

Inc.com posted, 10 Words People Who Lack Confidence Always Use, can you believe this? When you have a lack of confidence, it impacts the words you use. Some of those words are might, won’t, impossible and confused.

Do you use these words?

Here are 17 ‘other’ Ways a Lack of Confidence Can Impact You:

  1. Challenged to say, ‘NO!’
  2. Constantly needing assurance from others.
  3. Distorted view of self.
  4. Difficulty building friendships.
  5. Doubt God would speak to you.
  6. Bad dating choices.
  7. Difficulty asking for what you’re worth.
  8. Difficulty making decisions, indecisive.
  9. Insecure in romantic relationships.
  10. Impairs your outlook on life.
  11. Question your ability to get things done.
  12. Diminishes your ability to choose right from wrong.
  13. Unsure how to set appropriate boundaries.
  14. Struggle to receive compliments.
  15. Question your calling.
  16. Unclear on your worth.
  17. Negatively affects your quality of life.

Did anything on the list strike you as surprising? You could be unaware that your confidence is low or maybe you would like to have more confidence, but don’t know what to do about it? If you’re interested in doing some coaching to improve your confidence, click here to book a FREE 30 minute consultation.

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With Love,
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New to TiffyTalks? My name is Tiffany. I'm a mom to a millennial named Deja, who enjoys coaching, speaking and writing about singleness, self-engagement and spiritual development.

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