What is it about self-care that turns us devoted and hard working women off?
Taking grandma to her doctor appointments, overtime on the job, trying to gain entry into a coveted degree program, caring for children, the work of ministry, and on and on and on; you know the drill. Some may even remark about your abilities with words like Superwoman, Go Getter, and Multitasker.
The ability to do all and to be every woman because “It’s all in me” comes at a price.
Have exhaustion and weariness become your standard mode of operating? Have you been pouring out pouring out and pouring out some more until you’ve got nothing left?
To give and to serve are dear to the heart of God.
Repeatedly Jesus gave and served. But we also see Him break away from the crowds to reflect, restore and refresh so that He could then reengage from a place of power and strength. Have you embraced self-care as part of your wellness routine?
Here are 3 signs that self-care may be in order:
- Physically and Emotionally Done! You go to bed tired and wake up just as tired so you trudge through the day feeling defeated. You’re close to the edge and if someone says or does just one more thing you just might lose it.
- Mental Fatigue. Your mind is so tired with all of the thoughts racing through it. And because your mind is overloaded you can be short tempered, irritable and edgy. Things that you used to have a high tolerance for now are now jarring to your system.
- Hopeless and Helpless. You’ve done so much for others for so long that frankly you’re starting not to care. You’ve become detached and may not answer phone calls or return texts. You may ask yourself questions like “Why do I even bother?” “Does anyone see what I’m doing here?” You may even be a bit cynical, jaded and resentful.
Oh my friend, I have known this place all too well.
As a mother of six, I’ve poured out. As a wife I’ve poured out. Being a ministry leader I’ve poured out. As a daughter I’ve pour out. As a friend I’ve poured out. Pouring out until I was left depleted. UNTIL! That was until I was set free by this powerful revelation that the Father invites us to enter into His rest.
Settle this in your spirit…Self-care is NOT selfish.
Self-care is essential for mind, body and spirit wellness. And it is God’s desire that you are well and not merely well but are prospering in health (3 John 1:2).
Beloved, God invites you to enter His rest.
So then, there remains a Sabbath rest for the people of God, for whoever has entered God’s rest has also rested from his works as God did from his. Let us therefore strive to enter that rest, so that no one may fall by the same sort of disobedience. ~Hebrews 4:9-11
Self-neglect, self-martyrdom, and self-sabotage are not God’s desire for you.
After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. ~Ephesians 5:29-30
You know the airline saying, “In the event of an emergency, please put on your oxygen mask before assisting others”. You’d not only be doing yourself a disservice but will also be less effective in serving others if you have not practiced some form of self-care. So how can you honor and nurture yourself?
Here are some small steps you can take right away:
- Breathe. Yes breathe. Become aware of your breath. Take long, intentional breaths. Feel your chest expand as it fills. The breath of life was one of God’s first gifts to man. Behold that special gift.
- Do one thing a week that brings you joy; a long bath, read a book, go for a walk, and get outside.
- Honor your temple through exercise, nourishment and rest.
Remember those 3 signs that self-care may be in order? Do something about that. Self-care empowers you to be physically, mentally and emotionally present so that you can actively engage in your relationships. Beloved, today embrace YOU and behold self-care. Click here for a list of other useful self-care tips.
What one thing will you do TODAY to practice self-care?
As always, it is my prayer that you’ve been Inspired To Live Fully! ~Tyra Lane-Kingsland (pictured above)
P.S. If you’re in need of taking some invaluable time to honor your temple and draw closer to God, consider joining the FREE ‘Let Your Light Shine’ 5 Day Fasting & Prayer Challenge. Click here to RSVP!
Guest Blogger: Tyra Lane-Kingsland is no stranger to inspiring hearts. From tending the hearts of her husband and six children to her role as a Women’s Ministry Leader, speaker and blogger, Tyra has provided encouragement to countless women. Tyra is the author of the new book, Purposeful Parenting. You can find her providing inspiration @ www.inspiredtolivefully.com Please check her out on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter!