Self-Acceptance is the foundation of living a happy and fulfilled life.
When you accept yourself, you’re basically announcing to yourself and the world, “I approve me!”
It’s not about arrogance.
It’s about giving yourself the okay, even if no one else does. And, it’s about giving yourself a nod, in spite of your flaws.
Now, the opposite of self-acceptance would be disapproving of yourself. Another way put, it’s like being at opposition with oneself.
Imagine fighting yourself.
Can you picture you bruising you? Constantly being at odds with the way you look. Being at odds with the way you talk. Being at odds with the size of your boobs or your waistline. How about constantly critiquing your kinky hair or your skin tone?
When you don’t accept you, you fight against you. You place a bet against you before anyone else has a chance to. This article from Psychology Today breaks down why some people beat themselves up.
On the contrary, when you accept you, you bet on you, and you bet on the God in you. You approve your smile. Adore your intelligence. You accentuate your skin tone. Self-acceptance is all about welcoming you to be you. And, when you courageously accept you, you free yourself to show up fully in life and in love, which will lead you to a happy and most fulfilling life.
We are constantly invited to be who we are. ~ Henry David Thoreau
Yesterday, a dear friend said to me, “I’m just glad the lost girl I knew at 26 or 27 has become the woman you are today.”
I’m glad too.
Yes, I was lost at 26 and 27-years-old. I was lost trying to find myself, not through the eyes of God, but through the eyes of man (one man in particular). I had no idea my reflection could best be seen through the eyes of God.
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. ~ Psalm 139:13 NIV
Just so you know, it’s dangerous to look to a person who barely accepts or knows himself for approval.
Back then, at 26 and 27-years-old, I had no idea my inmost being was accepted and approved by God. I didn’t know God was mysteriously present in my life, inviting me to discover and do me (my purpose).
Right now, you may or may not know that there are fantastic things God wants you to accept and explore about you. Don’t let me put words in your mouth…
As of today, what’s your relationship like with you? Are you good with you? Maybe you flipflop with you, one day you’re willing to bet it all on you and the next day, you’re doubting you have what it takes to win the smallest battle? –Maybe, you’ve been in a cat fight with you for so long, you think it’s normal?
I’m not here to judge you.
I just want to ensure you know why fighting the good fight of self-acceptance is worth your while.
Here are 5 Reasons Why Self-Acceptance is Important:
- You stop fighting you and begin to fight for you. Self-advocacy is important. Who’s going to advocate for you to get that new job or that pay raise? You guessed it! Y.O.U. That’s hard to do if you’re betting against you and not for you.
- You don’t internalize the critique or criticism from others as much. Since your internal conversation isn’t dominated by negative self-talk, discerning the negative comments of others becomes more obvious. Basically, people can no longer say anything about you or around you.
- Instead of working against God, you begin to work with God. You’ll find yourself being more open to becoming the best version of you in all areas of life.
- Your standard for love becomes the standard. Self-acceptance aka self-love sets the tone for how others MUST love you.
- You free others to love you or not. You no longer feel the need to force others to accept you, friend you, date you or marry you because you accept you. And, all the pros and cons that come with being who you are isn’t meant to fit with everyone.
On August 20th & 21st, I’m partnering with Christian Therapist, Sophia Avery, MA to bring you the Out of the Box Retreat for Single Women. We’ll be exploring how self-acceptance or lack thereof impacts single women and dating. If you’re in the tristate area, CLICK HERE to make sure you don’t miss out on this opportunity.
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Tiffany Wilson, M.Div. (aka TiffyTalks)
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