Single Men Get Real About Getting Engaged

Do single men really care about getting engaged?!

Word on the street is they don’t, but I’m finding, many do care. Maybe, they just needed to be asked? Well, these 3 single guys get real about what the “GetEngaged” campaign means to them and how it’s bigger than attracting more females or finding your soul mate, if that even exists? You gotta read on…

Marc Antoine is always representing his King and Country well. Yo-oo Haiti!! An engaged dual Master's degree student that's down for a little revolutionary action. Photo Cred: Marc's selfie + @tiffytalks twist. #single

Marc Antoine is always representing his King and Country well. Yo-oo Haiti!! An engaged dual Master’s degree student that’s down for a little revolutionary action. Photo Cred: Marc’s selfie + @tiffytalks twist.

1. Marc, what’s your take on the “#GetEngaged” campaign? Do you believe it can be helpful for men too?

My take on the #GetEngaged campaign is that this campaign is long overdue!

We live in an over-sexualized, self-interested and materialistic society, which has led to the dilution, perversion and misunderstanding of the Image of God in each of us. If we understand that we are made in the Image of God, we will not search for worth in people or things. This campaign has reiterated the fact that our purpose is not to find our soul mate (if that’s even a real thing), but rather to Love God, Love Self, and Love Others. This campaign is helpful for humanity as a whole, both women and men, single or not single. If men want to fulfill the purpose of God in our lives through marriage, work, education etc, we must be engaged in a solid relationship with God and self.

2. Do you feel like you’re engaged in your life?

I’m very engaged in my life. I have learned and am continuing to learn and grow with God and myself. I understand where God is leading me in life, I have a vision of where I want to go and how I want to get there, and lastly I know who I am. I’m confident in who I am, while realizing areas for growth, I love myself without compromising my love for others and I’m content with what I have, while I continue to strive for excellence.

3. If so, what caused you to be engaged?

Establishing a personal relationship with God through prayer and reading my Bible is what caused me to become engaged. I looked at the life of Jesus Christ and realized how self-aware He was, how confident He was, and how focused He was. Jesus knew His worth, His purpose, and His value, which allowed him to have the impact that He did. I compared the way Jesus was engaged with Himself and compared it to the way I was engaged with myself. Needless to say, there was some major improvements that were needed.

4. Since TiffyTalks speaks mostly to female readers, as a single man, in dating, do you place value on a woman that’s engaged in her life or is it of no significance? And why?

I definitely place value in a woman who is engaged in her life. A woman who is engaged in her life is a woman who has standards, a woman who knows what she wants, and a woman who will encourage her man to grow in the same way.

“Loving oneself is a prerequisite for loving others, if she does not love herself, she can’t love me.”

5. Lastly, if you’re inspired to say anything else that you think would be insightful, please share…

I would like to add that getting engaged in your own life has major implications for the world.

I wonder how many marriages and families would still be in tact if the spouses were engaged before getting engaged? I wonder how many victims would have been spared if the culprits were self-engaged? I wonder how easier it would be for us to forgive one another if were self-engaged? Knowing yourself, being invested in yourself and knowing your self-worth is a holistic approach that has the power to transform lives, communities and the world. #GetEngaged

Mr. "Say it like it is!" Omar Moore is a Philly native. He stepped up his self-engagement by moving to Charlotte, NC to exercise his uncle muscles and beef up his life. Photo Cred: @tianah10 + @tiffytalks twist. #single

Mr. “Say it like it is!” Omar Moore is a Philly native. He stepped up his self-engagement by moving to Charlotte, NC to exercise his uncle muscles and beef up his life. Photo Cred: @tianah10 + @tiffytalks twist.

1. Omar, what’s your take on the “#GetEngaged” campaign? Do you believe it can be helpful for men too?

I think getting engaged is dope! I think more single men, men in general, should get engaged for the sake of what’s going on in this social media driven society. I think a lot of men get caught up in the look or the image of getting money or being Mr. Popular, mostly for the attention of females.

2. Do you feel like you’re engaged in your life?

I definitely feel as though I’m engaged. I think time has played a major role in my being engaged. As a young ‘single’ guy, I use to get caught up on how many girls I had or who has the prettiest girls, as I got older, I’ve realized the “prettiest” girls are the ones that are pretty –inside and out. In order to make a relationship grow, you must connect with that woman mentally, spiritually and physically. When you’re younger, you only look for a nice body or a pretty face, getting older, you look for much more.

3. If so, what caused you to be engaged?

What I did was I made my circle smaller. I use to hang out with a lot of guys and when you hang out with a lot of guys you hear all the stories and over a period of time, without knowing it, you start creating or making up your own stories to fit in with the guys you hang out with. Then you begin to chase all different types of women for all the wrong reasons, so you can have something to tell –just to fit in. As my circle got smaller, I felt less pressure and less of the need to impress the guys around me and started to become more focused on the right situations for me.

4. Since TiffyTalks speaks mostly to female readers, as a single man, in dating, do you place value on a woman that’s engaged in her life or is it of no significance? And why?

I place a high value on women that are engaged. A good man will appreciate a woman that’s more focused on herself and trying to better herself, more than a woman that’s not engaged. A woman that is not engaged is usually lost. She most likely parties often or has a group of friends coaching her on doing the wrong things, therefore she remains lost. An engaged woman’s focus is so much brighter and I believe she’s a way better person to get to know.

5. Lastly, if you’re inspired to say anything else that you think would be insightful, please share…

I also feel as though an engaged woman is better for the long haul because she’s less likely to change into a different person, because of her engagement, she’s more sure of herself and will tell you exactly what she needs and wants, making it easier to get along with her and understand her.

Sir Anthony Spease, Owner of www.livesircuit.com is a multifaceted media man, who knows his heart for people is what causes him to #GetEngaged. Photo Cred: Robb Smooth + @tiffytalks twist. #single

Sir Anthony Spease, Owner of www.livesircuit.com is a multifaceted media man, who knows his heart for people is what causes him to #GetEngaged. Photo Cred: Robb Smooth + @tiffytalks twist.

1. Sir, what’s your take on the “#GetEngaged” campaign? Do you believe it can be helpful for men too?

It’s actually interesting, so the #GetEngaged campaign is great and hopeful, but it seems to be for people that are older and I wish we could get younger people to feel that way, to get to know themselves. Hey! I haven’t even gotten fully engaged with myself and it sounds so corny and cliche, but it’s the truth, you do need to know you before you can love another?! Yeah, I love it. –I love the campaign, especially for women, but guys need it to0! We definitely need a guide, a day-to-day guide to getting engaged.

2. Do you feel like you’re engaged in your life?

75% of me is, there’s still a piece missing. I’ve been doing a lot better. I still have work to do, but I guess we all do.

3. If so, what caused you to be engaged?

So, I love helping people. My whole goal in life is to help as many people as possible, before I die. The more I’m engaged, the more I can help others. So, the thought of me being able to help others is my motivation to be engaged with myself.

4. Since TiffyTalks speaks mostly to female readers, as a single man, in dating, do you place value on a woman that’s engaged in her life or is it of no significance? And why?

I think that it can be intimating for a single man to come across a single woman that’s fully engaged in her life. Overall, men are use to women that are looking for a man to complete them. So, to meet a single female that’s engaged, that’s an independent woman, –right? I would say that men would be intimidated, but me, I would like a woman that’s engaged because I think it would make the best relationship ever. You have to be a very strong-minded man. There’s no way a weak-minded male would date a woman that’s engaged. There’s no way he would even approach that kind of woman.

5. Lastly, if you’re inspired to say anything else that you think would be insightful, please share…

I guess, I would pose this question:

I had so much fun getting the single guy’s take on being engaged. Honestly, I didn’t know what to expect, but the fellas definitely have much to say. Of course, there are many men (and women?) who may disagree on what men really want, but this #GetEngaged campaign isn’t just about listing what men or women want. It’s about connecting with self (and God) in such a way that you come to know what’s best, not just for you, but for your community and quite possibly the world.

With Love, Marc, Omar, Sir &….
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P.S. Do you agree, disagree? Definitely add to this #GetEngaged discussion by commenting and sharing the love. It matters. 

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About the Author:

Are you new to TiffyTalks? My name is Tiffany. I reside in Philly, but I'm originally from Boston. I'm Deja's mom, and I enjoy my urbanista lifestyle. The #GetEngaged mission I'm on is simple: I believe when a woman gets engaged with her true self, she's more likely to make better decisions, set boundaries and take the risks that bring her closer to the desires of her heart. I'm living proof that getting engaged works! Pull up and enjoy the #GetEngaged articles and resources.

5 Comments

  1. Bernardine Wilson November 6, 2014 at 5:29 pm - Reply

    Your doing great things

  2. michael dello russo November 9, 2014 at 1:44 am - Reply

    A+mazing I love who you were and who you are.

    • Tiffy November 9, 2014 at 5:52 am - Reply

      Mr. DelloRusso! Your gentlemanly way has always been brilliant, love you back!!

  3. Kristin November 13, 2014 at 2:22 pm - Reply

    Hi Tiffy! I definitely agree that we’re missing the boat if we’re not totally engaged with the calling God has on our life, engaged with His perception of us, and engaged in the things that JESUS was most focused on: healing others, spreading the GOOD NEWS, and abiding with His Father. I love this #engaged concept because it is SO easy to get sucked into the idol of being engaged to be married while neglecting our FIRST and MOST IMPORTANT LOVE: our Savior, Jesus Christ!! Amen, and keep spreading the BEST NEWS: God loves us, picked us, and has AMAZING plans to use us to be HIS LOVE!! How sweet it is!

    • Tiffy November 17, 2014 at 6:02 pm - Reply

      Kristin, Your response is so on point, I needed time to sit with all you said. lol. Thank you!! #engaged 😉

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