Struggling to stand up for the new you in old circles? Real friends change, but making new friends doesn’t have to be weird

Recently, I was honored to be the guest speaker for Pretty Girls Praise God’s 1-year Anniversary celebration. Pretty Girls Praise God is an Instagram movement, founded by Shakeena Rice @justkeena of Philadelphia in an effort to help young women keep a pretty heart by staying connected to God.

Okay, so what does this have to do with making new friends?

Well, making new friends and maintaining ties to old friends can be tricky in our heavily cynical world, especially when people move and grow. Gratefully, God has a wonderful way of connecting the dots in our lives to people that will honor the God and GREAT in us, right where we are. In the book of Matthew, Jesus was mocked and murmured about in his hometown because certain people in his old neighborhood couldn’t get past their perception of him as “just” a carpenter’s son. In their minds, a carpenter’s son wasn’t supposed to be a teacher, smart or confident in stature. I could hear them now, “Like—seriously, who does he think he is and who qualified him to teach?!?”

Does this sound familiar to you? 

Are you struggling to stand up for the new you in old circles? Is God showing you more, but you come from a mindset of less? Well, the good news is you’re not alone, but-ta-rah the bad news is YOU can’t change anyone’s narrow perception of you or the God you serve.

I’m certain Jesus isn’t the only one that’s been talked badly about or snubbed for going beyond what other people ever imagined.

When Jesus was criticized by his old neighbors, he didn’t invest time in convincing them that they were wrong and he was right. Instead, he acknowledged their shortsightedness and then he bounced. Yup! He left his hometown and took his miracles with him. The cool thing is Jesus didn’t reject the people. He rejected their lack of faith. So, when you are misjudged or scrutinized for being different, and your very presence makes others feel uncomfortable, try not to reject the person…just chalk it up as a lack of faith or foresight on their part. Everyone won’t have the foresight to see who you ARE and where your life’s trajectory is headed. Honestly, it’s too much to expect.

I know this may not be comforting enough for you, especially if you find your circle of friends shrinking or if you’re being snickered at by family members and people that knew you since twizzlers and hop-scotch. Trust me, I know!! — It’s not fair and it’s definitely not easy being shunned by those you love or expect more love from, but not to worry. As you continue on your journey, God will send you unexpected people, new friends or spiritual sisters and brothers to help you live this life really well. Don’t just trust my word, trust God, meeting new friends won’t be an issue and yes, loosing old friends will be sad, but it won’t stop the show. Stay open and committed to your journey and watch God connect those new dots!


Tiffany & Shakeena at Pretty Girls Praise God 1-year Anniversary Photo Cred: Hero Drade @herodrade

How can I be so confident? Because, it’s totally what happened for me and for others I know that made the decision to rock out with God, regardless of the murmuring or distancing from old friends. God really has a remarkable way of making up for what’s lost.

Surprisingly, I connected with Shakeena through Instagram. No, we’re not best friends and I don’t think either of us is plotting on being girlfriends, but I would call her a spiritual sister. There’s something super rich about spiritual connections. They just work, no forcing and manipulating!

Anyways, I can go on and on about how God has connected me with the right people, at the right time, including some great and gifted women.

In an effort to highlight the power of Godly connections and God’s divine purpose for each of us, I asked a handful of brilliant women to be apart of my next blog post. The blog will feature, Shakeena Rice and other leading ladies’ mini-testimonies of how they mustered up the faith to move forward in life and in business, and how you can do the same.

I hope you read up and stay engaged by adding your email to the GET UPDATES box. I’m so grateful to be able to serve others and thrilled to connect with women like you. It’s such a treat!!

With Love,
Tiffy Sign 90




P.S. Special shout out to Shakeena Rice and all the Pretty Girls I met at the 1-year anniversary celebration. It was truly a God thing! Oh, and don’t leave without sharing or commenting, I’d love to hear from you! Your feedback matters. 😉



By | 2017-03-02T15:48:35+00:00 February 3rd, 2014|blog|10 Comments

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New to TiffyTalks? My name is Tiffany. I'm a mom to a millennial named Deja, who enjoys coaching, speaking and writing about singleness, self-engagement and spiritual development.


  1. Shawntel February 7, 2014 at 11:12 pm - Reply

    You really do inspire me Tiff, seeing you blossom has made me have an ah ha moment! Seriously, this program is an awesome move of God & who better to have spoken at the event. God made sure it was you that was blessed & became a blessing to those in attendance. I went on the site & was going to purchase a t-shirt……my my my they are all Sold-Out, I shouldn’t be surprised right…..LOL! I’m so looking forward to see & partake in all of the blessing that you’re involved with….Miss & Love U Sissy…CONGRATS DIVA!!

    • Tiffy February 11, 2014 at 5:24 pm - Reply

      Shawntel, You’ve all inspired me. I told you that ASC would always be apart of my story 🙂 Thanks for the love & definitely get your Pretty Girls Praise God t-shirt!! I have mine. -XO

  2. Mika February 10, 2014 at 5:28 am - Reply

    So let me start by saying this is confirmation FOR ME AND I RECEIVE IT! I had a conversation this evening via Facebook with a few of my spiritual sisters .. I felt the need to express my sincere gratitude to them because indeed we are women of God but we face different struggles everyday..Since my walk with God I’ve lost some folk because we apparently have different focal points and gained some that are better because we are sincere believers and know what our Nia is!

    • Tiffy February 11, 2014 at 5:31 pm - Reply

      Mika! You rock, thanks for reading. Circles may change, but God will keep us in community. Stay happy. -XO

  3. Natalie February 16, 2014 at 5:16 pm - Reply

    Less is More! Some people cannot go with you into the next phase. What God does is move others into that position in that new season ~Van Moody

    I thank God that I have a Ruth or two running this race with me. Thanks for the reflection Tiffy! God Bless!

    • Tiffy February 18, 2014 at 3:18 am - Reply

      Natalie, Life is so much better in the right company and yes, everyone can’t go. -Blessings!

  4. Michael Wilson February 25, 2014 at 10:33 pm - Reply

    Good evening cousin,
    I am so proud of you for the decisions that you’ve made to get to this point of your journey. You look so comfortable in your current situation & more importantly you look happy! I love your positive transformation to what you’ve become! stay on your current path & as we say (do, what it do) because no one will do it for you!

    You are blessed!

    Love you,
    Michael Wilson

    • Tiffy February 26, 2014 at 4:30 pm - Reply

      I love my family!!! Thanks -XOXOXO

  5. Adanna July 14, 2014 at 5:34 pm - Reply

    Tiffy, reading really released me from some negative emotions I’ve been dealing with. Couldn’t be said better. Thanks for this post. I realities. The right time.

  6. Adanna July 14, 2014 at 5:35 pm - Reply

    *i read this in the right time

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