When What You're Doing Isn't Working Anymore

If what you're doing isn't working for you, or isn't connected to God's best for you, you can change.

In your work life, love life, social life or spiritual life, change is always an available, good, yet scary option, but first, how do you know if what you're doing isn't working?

You may say things like:

  • "I hate my job!"
  • "This can't be it for me."
  • "I'm done catching feelings."
  • "I know there's something MORE for me."

If you connect with any of these sentiments, then a desire for change is brewing within, and you probably already know, deep down inside, what you're doing, how you're living, who you're dating or who you're following is no longer working for you.

The question is: will you acknowledge how you feel, and to what extent are you willing to change?

In my book, #GetEngaged with Yourself & Win! 12 Keys to Unlocking the Life & Love You Desirehere's how I define change: 

"Change is a shifting away from what was toward what will be --toward a new and different outcome." -Tiffany Wilson, M.Div 

Oftentimes, we desire newness or a fresh start without having to do anything or give up anything, to achieve the new.

Many well intentioned people, maybe you, will suffer through "sameness" for the sake of avoiding all that is required to get to the new vision or promise. Change is undoubtably risky business, but without it, your current situation or status will remain the same. 

Have you seen the meme on social media that reads, "Get ready to level up, mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually, energetically --it's all coming?"

The hard truth is: leveling up in any way shape or form requires change, courage or conviction, and oftentimes, all three.

The beautiful truth though is as a believer, you have the Spirit of God, the great Advocate, working with you, on your side, and with God, "...nothing will be impossible...(Luke 1:37)" for you, including leveling up.

Matter of fact, making sure people are being transformed and leveling up in the right ways is an intrinsic part of God's economy and kingdom. 

Biblically speaking...

  • Esther had to be coached and prepared for 12 months, prior to being selected as Queen.
  • Ruth had to lose her first husband, honor her mother-in-law, convert to a new faith, and work in a foreign land, prior to meeting and marrying Boaz.
  • Mary had to believe she was carrying the Son of God, tell her fiancé she was pregnant, travel to visit her cousin Elizabeth, live with Elizabeth and her hubby for 3 months, prior to having the baby, Jesus.
  • I had to leave a relationship, move from Boston in my 20's to live in Harrisburg for 2 years, then move to Philly, go to seminary, leave my corporate gig, start a blog, learn how to coach, and so on and so on. 
  • You can insert your story here _________________________________. What has God already brought you through?

Do you see a common thread in lives of these women?  

So, here you are, three weeks into the New Year, what's the not so easy thing that you're being called to do, right now, to experience more alignment, happiness or contentment in your life?

Let's start here: What's not working for you anymore?

I wish it weren't so, but you will find it impossible to level up or vibrate higher, in a godly way, without being stretched mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually or energetically. 

I know, it's uncomfortable to be stretched. However, managing discomfort is a key component to living the best, abundant life God intends for you to experience and enjoy. 

Is it time to do something different? Are you on the verge of making a change, big or small? Let us know by commenting below, and let me know how I can help you shift from what's not working for you anymore, to your new thing.

Much Love, 

Tiffany Wilson, M.Div aka @tiffytalks

P.S. Are you a woman of faith? Would you like to learn how to hear God's voice, so you can make better decisions for your life? If this speaks to you, I invite you to join {FAVRD} a biweekly virtual Bible study community for women. Click here for more details.

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  • Calandra Williams

    Great post that makes you evaluate what isn’t working and activating your determination into evolving so that you experience the next level of greatness.

  • Holly

    Having a more consistent relationship with God.

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